Bath Fail

If you have boys, you know how sometimes their rooms and bathrooms start smelling a little funky.  So when I went to dress Mason for school, I noticed a musty smell.  It made me wonder…when is the last time Mason took a bath?

I’m sure it sounds weird for a mom not to know when her kids had a bath, right?  Well, in our house we have an arrangement.  Since Marc doesn’t get home until around 7 PM at night and the kids go to bed at 8:00 PM, our evenings are a rush.  I try to cook dinner before he gets home and when he gets there he plays with the kids and gives them their baths while I am finishing dinner or doing whatever I need to do.  So basically, it’s up to Dad.  But usually I hear water running or hear them talking about bath time and it occurred to me I didn’t remember hearing about bath stuff in a while.

So when I went downstairs, I asked my husband:
Me: Marc, when is the last time Mason took a bath?
Marc: (Looks at me kind of funny and pauses) Hmmm, that’s a good question.  I think a week and a half.



Sigh.

Bottom of the Barrel Lunch

You know how things get…well I have not been to the grocery store in two weeks.  I am going today, but poor Mason, he’s getting scraps for lunch.  He got a “heel” sandwich because the only bread left was the two heels and no drink.  So I put a note on his lunch for the teacher.

Mommy the Sailor

My most epic fail as a parent has to be my language.  It comes from years of working in IT with manufacturing plant employees, executives and salesmen.  Not that they are all guilty of it, but it’s pretty prevalent.  When Mason was born I worked really hard to avoid saying any cuss words.  I really tried.  It always happens when your guard is down and you break something, spill something, hurt yourself, etc.  So honestly, after a while, I just gave up.  It’s not like I say the F-word on a daily basis, but any cuss word is not acceptable when repeated by a toddler.

As a result, there was a 2 month period in Mason’s life when he was around 2.5 years things got pretty yucky.  Mason loves words.  Of all kinds.  I decided to tackle the situation just like I would any other type of thing he is not supposed to do that his parents do.  I told him some words are “adult words” and kids are not allowed to say them.  Luckily he wasn’t running around saying bad things all the time, but the handful of times it happened, it was both simultaneously hilarious (in a twisted sort of way) and humiliating.

Mommy’s favorite word (apparently) is sonofabitch.  Yes, it’s one word.  And to get the full impact and meaning, you have to say it very low and slow in a drawn out Texas drawl.

s  o  n  o  f  a  b  i  t  c  h

And the context is:

You grab the bottle of apple juice from the fridge by the cap, but the cap wasn’t put on tightly, so the contents spill all in the fridge, all over the floor, under the fridge and across the counter and the bottle is at the other side of the kitchen: sonofabitch
You come out of the coffee shop and sit your $5 coffee on top of the car to strap both of the kids in their car seats.  You drive off and realize the brand new and full frapaccino you drug both kids in and out of the car to get was still on top of the car: sonofabitch
You are rocking your baby daughter to sleep for nap time while your 2 yr old (who is potty training) is watching TV.  Then you hear a toilet flush in the bathroom and dread washes over you.  After the baby is asleep, you go to the bathroom and find your son in the bathroom with no clothes on.  He tells you, “I had an accident (poopy) but I cleaned it all up myself!”  It’s all over him, the floor, the toilet, the tub, the wall…sonofabitch

Keeping this in mind…we were playing at the park one day when Mason was about 2.5, and I think we were there a couple of hours.  When we got back home, I smelt something stinky.  Mason had an accident.  So I took him upstairs to change him.  When I took off his underwear, his bottom was red.  I told him:

Me: Mason honey, your bottom is red.  I have to clean it to get the poop off, but it’s probably going to hurt a little bit.
Mason: Why?
Me: Because you had an accident at the park and you didn’t tell Mommy, so I didn’t know.  You HAVE to tell Mommy if you have an accident because if the poopy stays on your butt then you get booboos.  So since you didn’t tell Mommy you needed to go potty or that you had an accident, now it’s going to hurt a little when I clean it.
Mason: sonofabitch

Well, can you blame him?  But that was the day I had to teach him about “adult words” and what words are not appropriate for 2 year olds.

By the way…I also say Goddamnit.  This one happens when you drop something on your foot, break a glass, or step on the dog.  It is said much faster and goes like this:

GOD  pause damnit.

Mason came home from school one day during the “adult words” training phase and we were in the kitchen.  He dropped his cup of juice on the floor:

Mason: God damnit!  Oops!  I sorry Mommy!  We say “Oh my goodness” instead.

Hmmm, I didn’t teach him that.  So…that means he must have cussed at school and they told him to say Oh my goodness.  Yikes!  Mason goes to a small mother’s day program run by a Baptist church.  I really can’t think of anything more degrading than a group of little ol’ church ladies knowing I taught my son to curse in God’s name.  But the irony of the situation is still pretty hilarious.

Lastly, there was apparently a time when Mason cussed in front of another family member.  And apparently the family member, whereas they don’t cuss of course, thought the right thing to tell Mason to do was to say “stupid” instead.   Not a good idea!  Stupid is also a word now on our “adult words” list.  After the incident happened, Mason was playing with a friend and the friend took a toy away from him.

Mason: Hey stupid Bobby!  You stupid!  (name changed)
Both I and the other parent heard it.
Other parent: Did Mason just call my kid stupid? (in an angry tone)
Me: I’m afraid so and I’m really sorry!  I didn’t teach him that I swear! (put Mason in time out and added “stupid” to the adult word list)

Of course the irony is, if he had said the words he learned from me, it would have been even worse!  But no, even “stupid” is not an appropriate word for a 2.5 year old.

 

Parent Fail Blogging

By now you may have seen the various posts about “Parent Fails” on the internet.  If you haven’t, I’ve posted some examples for you below.  I decided in my self-deprecating fashion to start a category for parent fails from myself and other parents who are not EPIC failures, but as we know, every day brings it’s own challenges.  So enjoy these examples below and you can also see my own antics in subsequent posts.

http://www.parentfail.com/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/05/17/the-funniest-parenting-fa_n_578096.html#s90506&title=Cute_Photo_Op

http://www.smosh.com/smosh-pit/photos/25-terrible-parenting-fails

 

Not the Momma!

Dads, even the best of them, are still NOT THE MOMMA!  Bless their hearts, but they just aren’t the same and they don’t think the same.  And…they shouldn’t have to.

My best friend told me this story recently: “I had to leave the house early to make it to a doctor’s appointment and so I left Roger (names changed in order to protect the innocent) in charge of taking Johnny to school.  I didn’t get a panicked phone call, so I assume everything was OK.  So after the day was done and it was time to pick Johnny up, I went to the school.  And he comes through the door all excited to see me…in his PAJAMAS.  Yes, you heard me correctly…in his PAJAMAS.  My husband sent my child to school IN HIS PAJAMAS.  I was so mortified.  The teachers were very nice and didn’t say anything about my son being in his PAJAMAS, but I was mortified. I went home and said,” Roger, you sent our son to school in his pajamas! And he said, “I did?” and looked down at Johnny, “Oh, haha, yeah I guess I did.  That’s funny.”  I didn’t think it was that funny.”

But on the converse end, my husband gives me a hard time a lot because I don’t get down on the ground and play cars with Mason very much.  When he first mentioned it, it did kind of bother me and I thought, hey yeah, I should do that more often.  But after trying it a few times, I realized I honestly don’t know how to “play cars” very well.  So the next time my husband brought it up, I defended myself with…you play cars with him, and I take him to do crafts (which he does really enjoy).  So if you want me to play cars with him then you need to do more crafts with him.  And you can also bake cookies with him, draw and cut out flowers and hearts, mix cakes and let him eat the beaters…etc.  He got my point.

Marc and I have talked about switching roles and him staying home and me going back to work since we both (when I left the workforce) made the same salaries.  And boy, there are some days I am all for it!  He is a good dad and he could do it, but I would have to live with the fact that he wouldn’t do things the same way I do and in the end, I’m not sure if I would be ready for that.